Coaching Moments with Life Coach Babs Presenting the Series “12 Keys For A Successful Marriage”

April’s key for a successful marriage is FORGIVENESS

In a marriage a husband and wife must be eager and quick to forgive.

Allowing a matter to fester is devastating to a marriage.

The Bible teaches us to forgive:

“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” ~Matthew 6:14 (NET)

What does forgiveness look like in a marriage?

Forgiveness must always be from the heart and always sincere.

I hope you enjoyed this Coaching moment with Life Coach Babs.

And remember, God will not judge us on how we are treated; but He will judge us on how we treat others.

How Do You Share Your Faith?

I was recently in an EEOC training and the trainer was explaining how certain very innocent, well meaning phrases that we use may sometimes come across as offensive and she used the following illustration:

“There was a Bank Teller who always said, “God bless you” to her customers after they finished their bank transactions with her. On one occasion, a certain customer was “offended” by her words and reported the Bank Teller to management. Of course management had to be “politically correct” and instructed the Bank Teller to not use the term “God bless you” to her customers. The Bank Teller did not get upset, she promptly agreed and continued to provide excellent customer service as usual.

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” -Colossians 3:23 (KJV)

“Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.” -Colossians 3:24 (KJV)

But now, instead of saying, “God bless you” to her customers after finishing their transactions, she simply says, “Goodbye”.

good·bye

ɡo͝odˈbī/

Origin late 16th century: contraction of God Be With You!

MORAL OF THE STORY: there is always a way to share your Faith in God 😊

The Teacher in the classroom; the Office worker; the Politician; the high paid Athlete… as a Spirit filled, *born again Christian, how do you share your faith with others in a society where we are now hard-pressed to even say, “God bless you”?

I hope you enjoyed reading “How do you share your faith?” Kindly comment and share!

*Do you know what it means to be born again and do you know the importance of being born again? You can find the answers in the book of John, chapter 3, verses 1-15…

“Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” -John 3:3 (KJV)

And remember, God will not judge us on how we are treated; but He will judge us on how we treat others.

Speaking the Truth in Love and Goodbye,

Life Coach Babs Charles

GOD Knows our End From The Beginning

“Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure: -Isaiah 46:10 (KJV)”

God already knows how everything is going to turn out for us before we even begin to go through a situation…

…that’s amazing.

We tend to start to worry and fret at the very onset of a trial or test; but God already knows the ending…

…that’s truly amazing.

Why can’t we simply accept what God allows… we’re better off anyway and we should thank Him in advance!

…and to God be all the glory!

#ItsNotAboutUs

#ItsAboutHIM

Coaching Moments with Life Coach Babs – Presenting the Series “12 Keys For A Successful Marriage”

March’s key for a successful marriage is COMMUNICATION

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March’s Key: COMMUNICATION

Effective communication is, simply put, successfully exchanging information between two or more individuals.

In order to effectively communicate, we must listen intently in order to get an understanding of what is being said; take your turn in the conversation and do not monopolize the entire conversation.

Remember, timing is everything. Never try to have a deep conversation with your spouse when he or she is not completely present in the moment.

What does effective communication look like in a marriage?

  • Always speak to your spouse with dignity and respect
  • When communicating with your spouse, speak with a gentle tone and say it with kindness
  • Have a smile in your voice and love in your heart
  • Learn to use patience when communicating with your spouse
  • Never have a competitive spirit – this will only lead to frustration and anger
  • Remove all distractions so that your spouse may have your undivided attention

What does the Bible say about communication?

“But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.”

~Matthew 5:37(KJV)

In other words, say what you mean and mean what you say. If you make a promise or commitment to your spouse, be careful to follow through. As Steve Forbes said, “A promise made should be a promise kept.”

The Bible also admonishes us to:

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

~Ephesians 4:29(KJV)

There should never be a time when a husband or wife use harsh swear words when communicating with his or her spouse. Instead our words should be soft and should edify, encourage, and build up each other. I know this is not always an easy task; however, it is achievable, with patience, longsuffering, and much prayer.

Furthermore, the Bible teaches us:

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.”

~ Proverbs 4:7(KJV)

Once an understanding is reached, any dispute or conflict in your relationship can be easily assessed and resolved.

Thanks for listening and I hope you enjoyed these Coaching moments with Life Coach Babs.

And remember, God will not judge us on how we are treated; but He will judge us on how we treat others.

March’s Key: COMMUNICATION

What God Allows

“The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and He addeth no sorrow with it.” ~Proverbs 10:22 (KJV)

This is probably one of my longer blog post, but it is definitely worth the read…

Have you ever had a conversation with someone who believes they are blessed of God because of the material “things” that God allows them to acquire; such as the nice home, the fancy car, lots of money, expensive jewels, the high paying job, and on, and on, and on?

You get my point… I’m sorry to disappoint, but that belief is not entirely the truth.

“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” ~John 8:32 (KJV)

Of course it’s acceptable to say having “things” is a blessing, or as we love to say, God’s favor. We most certainly should always be grateful to God for everything and in every situation.

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with Whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. ~James 1:17 (KJV)

However, please understand that having great possessions or acquiring many things does not necessarily mean that a person is blessed of God. With all thy getting, get understanding.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” ~Proverbs 4:7 (KJV)

…even the wicked prosper and it appears they will live forever…

“For I was envious at the foolish, when I saw the prosperity of the wicked.” ~Psalms 73:3

“For there are no bands in their death: but their strength is firm.” ~Psalms 73:4

Now, let’s consider the people without all those material “things”.

What about the wonderful Christian single mother; who has a low paying full-time job AND also has to work a part-time job just to make ends meet for her family? Is she not blessed…

What about the dedicated Christian father; who has to take the bus to work in the cold, heat, and rain because he does not have dependable transportation? Is he not blessed…

What about all the Christians with no food to eat, no decent clothes to wear, does not have their own place to live because circumstances and unfortunate events, such as a job lay-off, a horrible accident, a house fire, or even devastation from a hurricane, tornado, or earthquake caused undue hardship? Are they too, not blessed?

Did you notice the use of the word Christian(s)… meaning the born again one; the one who believes in the one and only true God, our Father; the one who has accepted Christ as their Lord and Savior; the one who is filled with the Holy Ghost, and has a guarantee of eternal life (yes, I said Holy Ghost)… yes, Christians are blessed whether or they have worldly wealth!

I know this is a slippery slope… however, even as Believers, we too must sometime suffer, in spite of our great faith; while to the contrary, the wicked seems to prosper (read Psalm 73)…

Peter said it best when he opened his mouth, and said, “Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons.” ~Acts 10:34 (NET)

And let us dare not forget what Jesus taught us: “That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for He maketh His sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.” ~ Matthew 5:45 (KJV)

Material wealth does not necessarily equate to being blessed of God… remember the rich young ruler? (read Matthew 19:16-22 and Mark 10:17-27).

For to be blessed of God is also to have eternal life. ~Life Coach Babs Charles

I would like for us to examine how some Christians, use the word “blessed”.

Here are some points to ponder:

  • Do you, as a Christian, understand the difference between what it means to be blessed of God and what it is to be “blessed” by man?
  • Do you believe that Christians can be blessed of God with material things?
  • Why do certain Christians often boast about being “blessed”; but will scoff at the sinner who also claims to be “blessed”?
  • Do you believe that just because a sinner says he has been “blessed” with material things, but has not accepted Christ as his Lord and Savior, will be blessed of God with eternal life?
  • Do you know that sinners also consider themselves “blessed” because of the material things they possess; not because of receiving salvation?
  • Do you know there are some Christians who do not have material wealth; yet they are tremendously blessed of God?
  • Did you notice in this blog that when the word blessed was in quotations (“blessed”) it referred to the carnal and not the spiritual blessings of God?

Now, let’s look at the word blessed and some of the blessings of God…

“Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” ~Matthew 5:3 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is The Kingdom of Heaven

“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.” ~Matthew 5:4 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is Comfort

“Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.” ~Matthew 5:5 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is Inheritance

“Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.” ~Matthew 5:6 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is Fullness (never again hungry or thirsty)

“Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.” ~Matthew 5:7 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is Mercy

“Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.” ~Matthew 5:8 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is See God (how awesome is that)

“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.” ~Matthew 5:9 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is We are God’s children (Kingdom Kids)

“Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” ~Matthew 5:10 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is Heaven (not Hell)

“Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.” ~Matthew 5:11 (KJV)

  • the Blessing of God is It’s all worth it for the sake of Christ

I don’t know about you, but I did not see one instance mentioned above in the BEATITUDES, of having material things as being blessed. Did you?

To be blessed of God is to be endowed with His Divine favor and His protection; it is not merely acquiring material possessions.

So, to those of you who still believe that having “things” and material wealth is a sure sign of being blessed, you do not fully understand what God’s true blessings are because all those “things” you have are simply, What God Allows.

“Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven… ~Matthew 5:12a (KJV)

That “great reward in Heaven” is truly what it means to be BLESSED!!!

I am not opposed to having material possessions; I just understand what it means to be blessed of God.

Thank you kindly for reading all the way to the end.

Please provide feedback, your point of view on this intriguing matter is greatly appreciated.

Amen and to God be the glory!

Life Coach Babs Charles

Coaching Moments with Life Coach Babs: 12 Keys For A Successful Marriage

February’s key for a successful marriage is LISTENING.

Click the link below to learn what Listening looks like in a marriage…

When you listen, attentively and lovingly, to your spouse or fiancé, it will take your marriage or relationship to another level; which will produce tremendous growth.

 

My Lips Shall Praise Thee…

“Because thy lovingkindness is better than life, my lips shall praise thee.”

“Thus will I bless thee while I live: I will lift up my hands in thy name.”

“My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips:”
‭‭~Psalms‬ ‭63:3-5‬ ‭(KJV‬‬)

Keys for a Successful Marriage

January’s key for a successful marriage is COMPROMISE… the companion to this key is CONSIDERATE…

January’s Key – Compromise

Not only is it important to compromise in your marriage, it is also imperative to be considerate to your spouse.

What does being considerate look like in a marriage?

We must be careful to not cause inconvenience or hurt to each other.

We must show thoughtfulness and sensitivity towards our spouse and be willing to put their needs and feelings before our own.

Being considerate to your mate is a selfless act and it sounds easier said than done, but the benefits reaped in your marriage are well worth it.

What does the Bible say about being considerate?

Philippians 2:3-4

3. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

4. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

Titus 3:2

2. To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.

1 Corinthians 10:24

24. Let no man seek his own, but every man another’s wealth.

…and let us not forget Colossians 3:13

13. Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

When we truly love someone, we must be willing to put in the work in order to not only make the marriage survive, but to THRIVE!

Remember God will not judge us on how we are treated; but He will judge us on how we treat others.

Life Coach Babs Charles

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